Do you have someone close to you, friends or love ones whose faith & religion is different than yours or even conflicts with your faith? You can still maintain the relationship no matter what faiths you have. This is always a debatable subject but at the end of the day, do you declare victory over your beliefs or you loose a day's energy to stay within your faith. Here are some of the guidelines which we can consider, remember, you may not agree totally, it's your love of choice.
Firstly, set ground rules. Good ideas are, no disrespecting or mocking the other's faith, no trying to convert the other or if it is required not talking about religion as a whole. Try to think of how you want to be treated.
Secondly, learn. Study your friend's religion and understand their point of view. Go to the library and check out books on it. Ask them questions (Be polite) and share about your faith without being too overbearing.
Thirdly, focus on the positives. Learn how religion can make people better. In every faith there is something that speaks to each person and makes them behave better.
Fourthly, listen to your faith. Would Jesus hate another person because of faith? Is it good Karma to shun others?
Lastly, remember why your friend or your love ones is your most loved of all. If this person means a lot to you, why should his/her faith matter?
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
How To Determine If The One You Like Likes You Too
Make eye contact with the other person. If he or she doesn't look into your eyes, that may not be a good sign; but there's no need to call it off just yet.( This point depends highly on the other person's personality. she or he can feel overwhelmed if she or he is a shy person)
Go up and talk to him or her. If he/she fidgets and looks away from you, then its a sign that he/she may not be interested or she/he might just be nervous.
Ask to dance with the other person if possible. If he/she looks away from you and talks to another person, then he/she may not be interested, or may not be having fun.
Go out with a group of friends including him or her. If this person stays close to you throughout the night, and talks with you a lot, this may be a sign they are interested.
Ask him/her if all else fails, and you really need to know the other person's feelings, you may have to come right out and ask. Just be prepared for disappointment if it doesn't work out.
The only way to know if someone really loves you is if they accept you for who you are than what you are. Nothing more and nothing less. No one is perfect but true love accepts the imperfections.
Go up and talk to him or her. If he/she fidgets and looks away from you, then its a sign that he/she may not be interested or she/he might just be nervous.
Ask to dance with the other person if possible. If he/she looks away from you and talks to another person, then he/she may not be interested, or may not be having fun.
Go out with a group of friends including him or her. If this person stays close to you throughout the night, and talks with you a lot, this may be a sign they are interested.
Ask him/her if all else fails, and you really need to know the other person's feelings, you may have to come right out and ask. Just be prepared for disappointment if it doesn't work out.
The only way to know if someone really loves you is if they accept you for who you are than what you are. Nothing more and nothing less. No one is perfect but true love accepts the imperfections.
How Do You Know If You Love Him Or Her
Think about what you want in a relationship. Write down your thoughts and feelings on what you think love is. This list is only for you. Don't write down what anybody else thinks about love other than yourself.
Make sure you know the difference between love and lust or infatuation. Lust is a sexual desire. Infatuation is when you are "crazy" about them, but this feeling usually fades over time. If you have only been with this person for a short while, really think about if you are moving too fast or its only puppy love.
Write down your feelings for them. How do you feel when you're talking to them? How do you feel when you haven't seen them for a week? How do you feel when you are making love(in your mind or not)? Express as much as you can through words.
Think about the communication between the two of you. Is it cut down to a minimum? How do you deal with conflict? Do you bring out good or bad parts of each other? Can you show different sides of yourself? Do you lie to your partner on a regular basis?
Ask yourself if you see and accept them as a whole person. Love isn't just loving the parts of them you like, but choosing to love them overall. If you cannot deal with them having imperfections, then maybe your relationship isn't as strong as you thought.
Ask yourself if you would do just about, if not, anything for her. Would you risk everything you have just to be with her? Is it worth it? And would she do the same for you? Do you have the same goals in life? She is supportive and understanding?
Make sure you know the difference between love and lust or infatuation. Lust is a sexual desire. Infatuation is when you are "crazy" about them, but this feeling usually fades over time. If you have only been with this person for a short while, really think about if you are moving too fast or its only puppy love.
Write down your feelings for them. How do you feel when you're talking to them? How do you feel when you haven't seen them for a week? How do you feel when you are making love(in your mind or not)? Express as much as you can through words.
Think about the communication between the two of you. Is it cut down to a minimum? How do you deal with conflict? Do you bring out good or bad parts of each other? Can you show different sides of yourself? Do you lie to your partner on a regular basis?
Ask yourself if you see and accept them as a whole person. Love isn't just loving the parts of them you like, but choosing to love them overall. If you cannot deal with them having imperfections, then maybe your relationship isn't as strong as you thought.
Ask yourself if you would do just about, if not, anything for her. Would you risk everything you have just to be with her? Is it worth it? And would she do the same for you? Do you have the same goals in life? She is supportive and understanding?
Saturday, July 18, 2009
When You Say "I Love You"
When you tell someone "I Love You", they should carry the weight to show that someone that you really do love them and not simply by what you feel at that moment. When you say it, make sure you mean it and ready to part anything of you for that special person. That include time, paitence, concern, understanding, considerate and many more.
Always put yourself in that someone's shoes rather than impose your own expectations and attempt to control them, try to understand how they feel, who they are and what are they driving at. Realise how they could also love you back just the way you wish to.
Love can be unconditional. If you cannot love another person without wanting to get the same return favors, then it is not love at all, it is merely just like an investment for yourself in love and relationship. If your interest is not in the other person's well being and life in particular, then it is not unconditional.
If you have no paitence and time to build that someone's life or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as who they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not loving them unconditionally. It has to be a free will from your heart and soul.
Expect nothing more or near contribution in return which you think you have contributed a lot. It doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat you. It simply means that loving someone does not always receive the same level of love you feel you have sacrifice. Love to love. Do not expect to be love back by that someone in same way you did, you may be love in many different ways which you may not realise. It's a matter of do you want to be love that way.
Love can be lost along the way. It is easy to fall in love then to get out of it. It'a like falling into a deep well without realising you don't have a way up again. Never pressure that someone to love you like the same way you do, you will only loose it along the way. Imagine you try to grab as much sand in your hand by crunching your fist hard, it will just flow out of your hand faster than you know.
Always put yourself in that someone's shoes rather than impose your own expectations and attempt to control them, try to understand how they feel, who they are and what are they driving at. Realise how they could also love you back just the way you wish to.
Love can be unconditional. If you cannot love another person without wanting to get the same return favors, then it is not love at all, it is merely just like an investment for yourself in love and relationship. If your interest is not in the other person's well being and life in particular, then it is not unconditional.
If you have no paitence and time to build that someone's life or allowing that person to be themselves and accepting them as who they are, and not who you want them to be, then you are not loving them unconditionally. It has to be a free will from your heart and soul.
Expect nothing more or near contribution in return which you think you have contributed a lot. It doesn't mean you should allow someone to mistreat you. It simply means that loving someone does not always receive the same level of love you feel you have sacrifice. Love to love. Do not expect to be love back by that someone in same way you did, you may be love in many different ways which you may not realise. It's a matter of do you want to be love that way.
Love can be lost along the way. It is easy to fall in love then to get out of it. It'a like falling into a deep well without realising you don't have a way up again. Never pressure that someone to love you like the same way you do, you will only loose it along the way. Imagine you try to grab as much sand in your hand by crunching your fist hard, it will just flow out of your hand faster than you know.
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Love Is Like Taking Care Of A Plant
I always like to associate love with plants, or a beautiful flower that you admire. It needs consistent care from the owner, sunlight from every corner, right amount of water and quality fertiliser in order to grow and bloom. Love is the same as taking care of your plant or flower, everyone deserve to be love by their love one like a plant.
1. Consistent care > A caring word a day keeps the love at bay.
2. Sunlight > An action of hope a day keeps your heart going
everyday. A word of encouragement or action goes a long way.
3. Water > Too much water the plant will drown, too
little water the plant will weed. Too much concern you can
become possesive, too much freedom you look the least concern.
Always remember, you can never grab every particle of the sand
especially if you crunch your fist too hard.
4. Fertiliser > Take time off from your busy schedule
everyday to spend quality time with your partner does bring
you two together. If you are busy to show love because you are
busy making a fortune, you can never buy true love with your
fortune.
Treat your love ones the way you want to be loved today.
1. Consistent care > A caring word a day keeps the love at bay.
2. Sunlight > An action of hope a day keeps your heart going
everyday. A word of encouragement or action goes a long way.
3. Water > Too much water the plant will drown, too
little water the plant will weed. Too much concern you can
become possesive, too much freedom you look the least concern.
Always remember, you can never grab every particle of the sand
especially if you crunch your fist too hard.
4. Fertiliser > Take time off from your busy schedule
everyday to spend quality time with your partner does bring
you two together. If you are busy to show love because you are
busy making a fortune, you can never buy true love with your
fortune.
Treat your love ones the way you want to be loved today.
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